perhaps love
Perhaps love is like the ocean
Full of conflict, full of change
Perhaps love? During these last four weeks, I’ve been to two weddings, had an anniversary and quite a few birthdays were observed. Not every occasion offers an opportunity for fanfare and celebration, but that does not negate the importance of said events. Sometimes I think that it is a bit sad, but life clearly is not all about merriment. Life is hard work, and I think we toil because of love.
Love comes in many shapes and sizes. It’s not just a pretty package of sparkling paper and ribbon. It can be that at times, but often it is not. I think we have to learn to be content if there is a shortage of recognition. For me, some of my favorite gifts are sentiments- such as a thoughtfully written note or card that speaks from one heart to another. These are what I actually love and treasure the most.
I love going to weddings and watching the event unfold. The commitment one chooses to make, especially during these times, to love and cherish to death do us part is fascinating. I’m finding that so many are hesitant to take that leap. They want the relationship without the commitment. I know that may sound old-fashioned, and I have no doubt that one can make a serious commitment to another without being married, but it’s more of the prioritization of things in life that puzzle me. It’s the place-value of certain things over others. One of, if not the best relationship, in my opinion, is when two people lock hand in hand and agree to travel through this messy life together.
Life can be messy and trickled with conflict. That doesn't mean all conflict is bad. It takes us to a point of understanding. Maybe we need to hear another point of view to open our minds and heart to something much deeper. I know I have certainly changed my once strong-opinions on many issues and topics. So, maybe a little conflict isn’t so bad as long as it doesn't tear us apart and cause us to lose our grip with one another.
When I was at the beach a few days ago, the ocean was in conflict, or so it appeared. (The day the above picture was taken) There was some astronomical or weather event going on in the world. One event was called Acqua Alta in Venice Italy, and here in Wilmington, NC we experienced a very strong Nor’ easter. Locally there was a bit of erosion to our shoreline and Venice was drowning once again. But what does any of this have to do with love? Probably not a whole lot, but it represents how storms trigger a response. People go into action to repair and prevent future damage. We are survivors and battle to weather the storms of life. The storm will dissipate and hopefully, with a good dose of love, life will flourish again.
Whether it’s restoring relationships, caring for family members through sickness, coming alongside a friend that’s struggling, or even trying to undo decisions of the past, without commitment and love, these things are nearly impossible. Nothing in life is easy, but it’s all worthwhile as we work through the challenges. Perhaps love is like an ocean full of conflict full of change.
I’m sure you’re getting sick of my John Denver fascination. But, every time I hear him sing, he speaks to my soul. Sometimes music makes me feel happy and sometimes it can cause me to feel a bit melancholy. I also love classical music and artists like Andrea Bocelli and Josh Groban. I’ve included a song written by my beloved John Denver, but it has an amazing twist. It’s a duet with Placido Domingo. It is a treasure! (and might I suggest you listen to it with earbuds or with good speakers if you can)
I hope you enjoy the two as they merge their voices together in Perhaps Love.
